Category: Livelihood

The benefits of coaching are infinite – it all depends on what you want to put into it. Absolutely EVERYONE can benefit in some way though. Even the most successful coaches have their own personal coaches to guide them. Here’s what’s in it for you.

The madness of winter and the month of March are overwhelming us. I am taking this as the perfect opportunity to share with you a “Madness in March” mini-series on the basics of coaching.

Not basketball coaching.

Personal coaching.

If you’re still wondering, “What does this Nicole lady DO though?” stick around for a few weeks. And if you’re finding that March is starting to make you feel a little madness, then don’t hesitate to reach out! Enjoy!

Some would say that the opposite of fear is “bravery” or simply a “lack of fear.” I think the opposite of fear is trust. Fear paralyzes; trust allows us to move forward confidently. Fear fuels stubbornness and pride; trust keeps us open and humble.

Trust stems from faith and is the foundation for a confidence that we will be safe, taken care of, and that the future holds good things in store. Not a blind, arrogant confidence that denies all responsibility; but a confidence that knows we are giving it our all, and the rest we will give to God.

Feeling hesitation in presenting yourself to the world? This often shows up, especially with women, in “marketing and sales.” We don’t want to be pushy or come on too strong.

We say we feel confident about our product, but stall out when it comes to putting that product in front of others.

If you know someone who’s life would change for the better by receiving what you have to offer, start there.

That’s not called sales; it’s called sharing your gifts with the world.

Gratitude. Appreciation. We’ve all heard so many times how this is the key to true happiness in life: giving gratitude every morning for the blessings in our lives, no matter how small. Saying thanks every night for the beautiful moments during your day.

Appreciating life is pretty straightforward when things are easy and going well. Smooth sailing. Sunny skies. Everything is going my way.

You can’t remove all the challenges of life; that’s what makes it LIFE. The unexpected is going to happen, and the road is going to have some bumps. Some days you’ll have more than you think you can handle. Big and small.

But that’s only the latter part of the equation:

When the “shoulds” take over, we feel like we have no choices. When we feel like we’re out of choices, we become miserable. And I mean, MISERABLE. We despise our lives, we become depressed, and frankly, people don’t want to be around us anymore. Recognizing and appreciating the choices available to us in our lives is a cornerstone of human happiness. (It’s also a close relative of gratitude, which we all know can change our lives for the better.)

So let’s work backwards:

I don’t have a choice; I have to; I can’t.

Quit letting your decisions, thoughts, and self-value be determined by what others might say you “should” be doing, thinking, or worth.

Where do you “should”? And where do you need to stop?

How do you spend your money?

We often equate the spending of our time with what we value most, which is wonderful, as our time is a finite resource. Sure, our money is limited to our budget or income at this moment, but it has the potential to be practically limitless. While we can increase our bank accounts, no one will ever be able to get more than 24 hours in a day.

So while we think of spending our limited time on the people and things that matter most to us, what about our money?

I was in Italy for a semester abroad when I first experienced Festa Della Donna, or International Women’s Day. Our chaperone, guide, and all-things-Europe expert, Bob, was in his 70s. He was a hoot to be around, sharp, wise, and funny, and even pretty smooth around the ladies, although he was a life-long bachelor (or maybe that’s WHY he was a bachelor.)

I know it’s everywhere, but really, can you ever have too much inspiration? If you’ve been avoiding this (like I was), just give in now. It’s worth it.