Madness in March: What Is the Coach For?
*The madness of winter and the month of March are overwhelming us. I am taking this as the perfect opportunity to share with you a “Madness in March” mini-series on the basics of coaching.
Not basketball coaching.
If you’re still wondering, “What does this Nicole lady DO though?” stick around for a few weeks. And if you’re finding that March is starting to make you feel a little madness, then don’t hesitate to reach out! Enjoy!*
A Coach for What?
Maybe you think “life coach” and internally shrivel your nose. Fortunately, coaching has become a comprehensive industry and includes so many different specialties. Life coaching specifically is typically focused on smaller, concrete goals, for example “I want to change jobs” or “I need to schedule my time better between work and home.”
My specialty is more in the transformational coaching arena, which can include aspects of life coaching, but is more about transforming the whole person, raising your self-awareness and positive vibration in the world.
Of course, transformational coaching can take many forms also, but my specialty lies in helping individuals clarify their true purpose, which I believe is individual to each of us and given from God. Once you’ve gotten clear on this, you learn how to make decisions based around this authentic purpose and what God wants from you, really listening to God’s voice and trusting his plan for your life.
I’m all about finding and living out our authentic God-given purpose, so that every day can be filled with passion and joy!
The Client Has the Answers
This is the foundational belief of coaching. I am not here to be your teacher (although you’ll learn a lot!) or to delve deep into healing past hurts (that’s what therapy is for).
My role as the coach is to ask questions, make suggestions and observations, and to get you thinking of new solutions. You have the answers within you. I provide the direction and motivation.
Your challenge is specific to you, and so your solution is going to be specific to you also. There are often a hundred different ways to solve a problem, but we might only see one, which frustrates and discourages us. A coach can help open your eyes to the other possibilities and help you think of possible solutions, then work through which might be best for YOU.
What Coaching is Not
- A paid friend. Of course it’s possible to develop a friendship with a coach/client, just like with any business or service transaction, but a coach is not there to just meet for coffee and have a chat.
- A constant cheerleader. A coach is most definitely meant to be encouraging and will celebrate your “wins” with you, but don’t expect your coach to have tunnel-vision positivity. Great healing can come when a mentor has the strength to say those tough things, so you have to be ready to hear the feedback and do the work.
- Counseling or therapy. Those certainly have their place, but they are often focused more on analyzing past experiences and behaviors or addressing mental illness. Coaching focuses on the future and moving you toward your goals.
Transformational coaching is about so much more than just getting a promotion at work. It’s about transforming your life. Your mindset. Your outlook. And thereby, your results. When you’re ready to take action, the world is ready to deliver.
It’s been an idyllic summertime experience. It has brought me joy and even made me love my children more, to see them running and laughing and enjoying the simplicity of childhood. When I see the viral posts saying how we need to “give our kids a 1970′s summer” again, I just shake my head. Regardless of the decade, everything we need for a perfect summer is within us.
In a book I was recently reading, the author referenced a Facebook post that was going around a few years ago. In it, Facebook users were prompted to share a list of (somewhat random) things about themselves. Things their closest online friends might not know about them, but maybe should.
The author used it as an opportunity to pull back the facade on her life and be vulnerable with experiences from her past, feelings in her present, and fears of her future that most people didn’t realize about her. It resonated with all who read it, and the response was overwhelmingly positive.
It occurred to me that I could make a list for my children. 15 Things I Want My Kids to Know About Me.
When I am laughing with my daughter on the floor as she pretends I’m her baby, watching the joy unfold on my middle son’s face as I “fly” him on my feet, or feeling the comfort of my oldest son’s arms around me at bedtime, sometimes my mind will think, “I should take a picture of this.”